Dee
What’s your experience in dealing with an over thinker in a relationship
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Hi Dee, I think it was Alain de Botton who said - you cannot think too much; you can only think badly. If our thoughts are overwhelming us, this means there is an underlying concern that needs to be addressed that leads to the sense of overthinking or someone coming across as an overthinker in a way that makes it a challenge in the relationship. Curiosity is good way to address this. Ask questions that would help you better understand where your partner's thoughts are coming from, such us, "Tell me more, what prompted this thought, how do you see this impacting your life, what part of this excites/worries you the most, how has your thought on this changed over time ..." and so on. That way your partner would learn to let go of thoughts by talking about them. Everyone needs a little reassurance and encouragement from time to time. However, if there are deeper concerns related to the over-thinking, you may suggest to them exploring that further with the assistance of a professional such a therapist or guided meditation, who can support shifting thought patterns when this becomes unhelpful and sabotages our ability to live in harmony with those around us. Within healthy boundaries, I would encourage thinking and talking about our thoughts, as it is one of the things we have less and less time for in modern life! :)